Quotes for Midwives

My last meeting with the lovely midwifery students I've been working with in Papua New Guinea is this morning.

 Pacific Adventist University Midwifery Students PNG

I've been surfing the net, looking for quotes that relate to midwifery, women and birth that I thought would inspire them.   I've come across the following and thought I'd share them with you.

"You are a midwife, assisting at someone else’s birth. Do good without show or fuss. Facilitate what is happening rather than what you think ought to be happening. If you must take the lead, lead so that the mother is helped, yet still free and in charge. When the baby is born, the mother will rightly say: “We did it ourselves!”  - From The Tao Te Ching

Speak tenderly to them. Let there be kindness in your face, in your eyes, in your smile, in the warmth of our greeting. Always have a cheerful smile. Don’t only give your care, but give your heart as well. ~ Mother Teresa

Ask me for strength and I will lend not only my hand, but also my heart. ~ Unknown

If you lay down, the baby will never come out! ~ Native American saying

Offer hugs, not drugs ~ Adina Lebowitz

Someday, after mastering the winds, the waves, the tides and gravity, we shall harness for God the energies of love, and then, for a second time in the history of the world, man (sic) will have discovered fire. ~ Pierre Teilhard de Chardin

  Just as a woman's heart knows how and when to pump, her lungs to inhale, and her hand to pull back from fire, so she knows when and how to give birth. ~Virginia Di Orio

You gain strength, courage and confidence by every experience in which you really stop to look fear in the face. ~ Eleanor Roosevelt

For God hath not give us the spirit of fear, but of power, and of love, and of a sound mind. ~2Timothy 1:7

If I had my life to live over, instead of wishing away nine months of pregnancy, I'd have cherished ever moment and realized that the wonderment growing inside me was the only chance in life to assist God in a miracle. ~Irma Bombeck

Making the decision to have a baby – it’s momentous. It is to decide forever to have your heart go walking around outside your body. ~Elizabeth Stone

What's done to children, they will do to society. ~Karl Menninger

A woman
in harmony
with her spirit
is like
a river flowing.
She goes
where she will
without pretense
and arrives
at her destination,
prepared
to be herself
and only herself.
~Maya Angelou

Sleep, glorious sleep!

Sleeping is something I've tended to put on hold. As I seek to cram more into my day, I find the hours in the middle of the night are those that are most able to be contracted.

I used to wonder about sleep and whether we could learn to do without it. Sleeping seemed like such a  waste of time to me. All those hours just lying around, doing nothing. Especially wasteful when there is so much to do!  I've discovered that reducing the amount of time I sleep is not a good idea.

According to current understanding about sleep and its functions, sleep is essential to psychological and physical wellbeing and is neuro-protective. According to John Axelsson from the Karolinska Institute in Sweden, a good night's sleep is a very important component of looking attractive and healthy. Those ideas that my grandmother had about the hours spent sleeping before midnight being important are very likely to be true, much as I'd love to ignore that fact. She was right about a lot of things, my grandmother.

 I've found to my horror that sleep poverty is associated with obesity.  Apparently those of us who struggle with middle age (or any age) 'spread' or 'spare tyres' - polite terms for enlarged girth would be well advised to ensure that we regularly get a good night's sleep as good sleep patterns help to keep obesity related genes switched off!

Stress is another culprit! Even if people get enough sleep, unless the causes of too much stress are managed or diminished, the problems compound.

 I read Katy's blog this morning and she was talking about sleep - Katy is a biomedical scientist and her blog is always informative. Amongst other things Katy said:

"Sleeping the correct amount (or at least longer than you typically do) is a good place to start when trying to get to the root of any health issue.  As for body postures, it’s best (does the least to shorten muscles and stiffen joints) to sleep flat on your back, no pillow, on a firm mattress.  Sleeping in his way (or just getting into this position on the floor when you’re awake) reveals a lot about your chronic joint position.  If you need something under your knees to be comfortable, your psoas is too short for your height.  If you need a pillow under your head to keep your chin from elevating, the cervical (neck) extensors are too short for the length of your spine.  If you take yoga, executing the supine savasana posture takes a good chunk of time to work up to.  You’ve been practicing chair-asana (the art of sitting long hours with your hips and knees at 90 degrees, head forward to the spine, and chin elevated) 10 hours a day, it’s no wonder you feel stiff getting into bed.  Do five minutes of light stretching followed by a “floor assessment” of your tension patterns.  Set the timer for 10 minutes and relax your parts to the floor, breathing quietly and thoroughly, before hopping into bed.  This should make getting into REM state that much easier".

 As someone who practices 'chair-asana' on a daily, hourly basis, I've taken her words to heart!

Making the change to ensure good quality sleep means changing habits and establishing new routines. Some random tips for healthy sound sleep I've picked up over time are:

1. Avoid stimulating drinks, conversations, television and other similar activities immediately before bed. 
2. Spend time winding down; that can include a relaxing bath (with or without candles and aromatherapy)
3. Get regular physical movement - a good walk each day stimulates/coordinates our brain cells and the muscles leading to better functioning
4. Sweet talk - with yourself and if you have one, your beloved - quality mutually rewarding intimacy and sexual expression
5. Review your day and congratulate yourself for things well done
6. Avoid focusing on the things you could have done better - write those down and tell your self that you will review them in the morning
7. A warm drink before bed can be helpful
8. Think of five things you are grateful for and feel the feelings associated with that gratitude
9. Review the things you want to do the next day and imagine them done well
10. Ensure you are warm enough/cool enough and comfortable in bed
11. Clean, fresh linen and smooth sheets always feels good
12. Keep electrical appliances away from your bedside
13. Don't read newspapers or action books or watch television in bed
14. Make your room as dark as possible (optimal hormone release at night requires darkness)

Sleep well!