Quotes for Midwives

My last meeting with the lovely midwifery students I've been working with in Papua New Guinea is this morning.

 Pacific Adventist University Midwifery Students PNG

I've been surfing the net, looking for quotes that relate to midwifery, women and birth that I thought would inspire them.   I've come across the following and thought I'd share them with you.

"You are a midwife, assisting at someone else’s birth. Do good without show or fuss. Facilitate what is happening rather than what you think ought to be happening. If you must take the lead, lead so that the mother is helped, yet still free and in charge. When the baby is born, the mother will rightly say: “We did it ourselves!”  - From The Tao Te Ching

Speak tenderly to them. Let there be kindness in your face, in your eyes, in your smile, in the warmth of our greeting. Always have a cheerful smile. Don’t only give your care, but give your heart as well. ~ Mother Teresa

Ask me for strength and I will lend not only my hand, but also my heart. ~ Unknown

If you lay down, the baby will never come out! ~ Native American saying

Offer hugs, not drugs ~ Adina Lebowitz

Someday, after mastering the winds, the waves, the tides and gravity, we shall harness for God the energies of love, and then, for a second time in the history of the world, man (sic) will have discovered fire. ~ Pierre Teilhard de Chardin

  Just as a woman's heart knows how and when to pump, her lungs to inhale, and her hand to pull back from fire, so she knows when and how to give birth. ~Virginia Di Orio

You gain strength, courage and confidence by every experience in which you really stop to look fear in the face. ~ Eleanor Roosevelt

For God hath not give us the spirit of fear, but of power, and of love, and of a sound mind. ~2Timothy 1:7

If I had my life to live over, instead of wishing away nine months of pregnancy, I'd have cherished ever moment and realized that the wonderment growing inside me was the only chance in life to assist God in a miracle. ~Irma Bombeck

Making the decision to have a baby – it’s momentous. It is to decide forever to have your heart go walking around outside your body. ~Elizabeth Stone

What's done to children, they will do to society. ~Karl Menninger

A woman
in harmony
with her spirit
is like
a river flowing.
She goes
where she will
without pretense
and arrives
at her destination,
prepared
to be herself
and only herself.
~Maya Angelou

Maternal intelligence: Calling the baby in

I've just read the most intense and illuminating blog post of a woman's birth story.

Rixa, of Stand and Deliver fame, posted the story of her baby Inga's unintended unassisted birth at home. One of my favourite comments, showing Rixa's wonderful presence of mind is when she was seeking to understand how close to birth she was...

"I knelt and reached inside. Sure enough, there was a hard round head about two knuckles deep. I felt around for a while, trying to figure out what was what. With all of the folded tissues and wrinkly baby’s head, it’s sometimes hard to tell where you end and baby begins!"

Baby Inga needed resuscitation, which Rixa did brilliantly.  You can see how Rixa managed the resuscitation of her baby with great mindfulness and focussed attention in the second video on her blog about Inga's birth.

Rixa explained that she had been certified in neonatal resuscitation a few years before. I'm not sure what other midwives do, but for anyone I considered could labour and birth quickly, I made a point of taking them through resuscitation of the newborn in case the baby arrived before I did. These days I recognise everyone needs that information, both for birth and beyond. We never know when those skills may come in handy; a woman told me that she was so glad I'd taught her as she had resuscitated a friend's child who fell in a swimming pool.

In terms of a newborn's transition to extrauterine life, certainly having the cord intact helps. Anyone who has seen a newborn with the cord clamped and cut immediately at birth would recognise the extra effort it takes for those babies to ground themselves and recover from the birth process.

Watching Rixa resuscitate her baby with five quick breaths and words of encouragement is a useful and informative experience for anyone to view. The way she talks to her baby is so important and I encourage mothers and fathers to do the same when they are in labour and when the baby is born.  "Calling the baby in" to its body is an essential part of the birth and transition to extrauterine life process and the importance is an understanding shared by Indigenous cultures and homebirth midwives. "Calling the baby in" is a recognition of the spiritual essence or consciousness of the baby and indicates an understanding of the way that the spirit can separate from the body (also known as 'out of body' experiences) during intensely emotional and/or challenging times. My personal view is that a mindfully aware, welcoming and lovingly focussed on the baby mother (and father) is the most important safety feature of labour and birth.

Rixa's birth and action to help her baby reminded me of the maternal intelligence in this video (following) of an elephant mother.  Some people may be offended by the association of an animal's behaviour with that of a human. However it is important to recognise that scientists use animals in all sorts of  ways to see how they respond to get insights into human experience and behaviour. Therefore it is highly appropriate to think about the commonalities in these two mothers and their attention to the needs of their newborn babies.  We are wiser with the way we treat animals as we realise we have to leave them alone to birth normally. We recognise that surveillance and well meaning intervention does more harm that good with animals. We have yet to fully appreciate that with human labour and birth.

The elephant mother is Nikki, her baby is Riski.  Note the mindful attending presence of the elephant mother and the way she calls her baby in. Watch the baby's eye as the spirit enters and stays.

Whatever your perspective about spirit, consciousness, birth, danger, surveillance, mother's innate intelligence, newborn babies resilience etc, these videos and the maternal intelligence that is evident in these videos invites us to think deeply about these matters.